Although we live in a time where the mindset around what a woman is or can do is more open minded, the influence from all the years when women had to stay at home and take care of her kids is still in the air in most of the countries. Working mums feel guilty of leaving their kids in after school care, missing out on different events their kids are part of and many other things.
A Great Mum:
When I firs became a mum, I was so nervous, I wanted to be the “perfect” mother. I was a full-time mum that did everything possible to be that…
The problem with that was that your self esteem gets beaten up all the time by other mothers, society and ourselves. That “perfect mum” label is the most horrible goal we can give to a parent because it is unreachable. As unperfect beings, we make mistakes all the time, so achieving a goal that is a myth is impossible, therefore feelings of frustration invade our minds constantly.
“Working moms commonly testify that they feel guilty when they are away from their children and guilty when they are not at their jobs. Devoted fathers certainly miss their children deeply, but it does not seem to be with the same gnawing primal anxiety that often afflicts women.” – Camille Paglia (American academic and social critic).
Kid´s point of view:
As mothers, we tend to pay so much attention to what society thinks a mum should be or do, that we forget that how our kids feel/ see us is the most important thing. What I mean by this is that as kids, all of us believed that what happened in our house was what “normal” was and got used to that. We can witness in people when they make different choices in their life, how they have a big influence of what they learned at home; it was installed in our subconscious minds while we were growing up.
Kids love their parents, no matter what. Those lovely and innocent little humans want to be loved by us because they, no matter how we behave, accept us more than we accept each other. Here is a wonderful TED talk of a woman who was called a “motherless child”, that shows us how kids love their mothers and still as grownups have a special connection to them.
The Influence a Working Mother has on her Kids:
It is common to hear that working mothers make kids feel abandoned, unloved… But if we open up our minds, quality is more important than quantity. Of course, if we have them both, we mothers can have an amazing sensation of fulfilment, which is why I recommend mothers to join my Tribe and create their own successful online business. But that is not the subject today.
- When a woman works, she gives her kids the example of how we can all (men and women) pursue our dream career and succeed.
- We can divide the household tasks with our partners (in case we are married or live with a partner) and by that simple act, the believe that women belong in the kitchen and are completely in charge of the laundry; stops (unless the activities are not divided).
- It shows our kids how we as women can also be strong leaders, just look how many successful women are out there who have many followers; Michelle Obama, Angelina Jolie, Amal Clooney (human rights attorney) Angela Merkel (Chancellor of Germany) and the list goes on and on.
Here is a list of not that famous but still very successful women who can inspire you too.
We women are amazing and we can embrace that by being conscious of what a wonderful example we can give our kids and ourselves.
“Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, and build a life you´re proud to live.” Anne Sweeney (President of Walt Disney)
Habits Successful Mothers have:
I believe that from all the habits we can find, the most important ones are 3:
1 – Having a split shift; which is working in the morning, stopping when kids come back from school and working again when they go to bed.
2 – Looking at our schedule and paying attention to the hours we need to work before determining weather we do other things that could distract us from our goals.
3 – Exercise; this is something that most of the successful people do. There are groups of mums who exercise with their kids that we can join and when our kids are old enough to go to school, we can go to the gym, ride our bikes, run…
In the end, I believe that we are all free to choose our paths, that nothing is written in stone and that if we believe in a successful and balanced life, we can achieve it. We define our own rules and by following them while being flexible too, we can accomplish wonderful things.
Now, it is important to note, that in this time, the online business world has brought success to millions of people all around the globe. I found that without the need of having any product or being all techy, we can succeed and have a piece of the cake of wealth that the laptop business brings. We women are amazing and can have massive success online too, here is a link that will connect you to my mentors in digital marketing, I hope you can feel and see the value of it.
Let´s support each other, and be proud of all women, single, married, divorced, working mothers; we are all beautiful, amazing and successful.