Being a woman:
Being a woman is tough and if you are one, you know many reasons why.
Being a mother is a roller-coaster of emotions, one day you feel like an amazing mum, the other you feel like the worst mother and in the end, we end up hoping that our kids grow happy and strong enough to face the world out there…
Now, the world out there and also many of our thoughts tend to have rules about what a good mother is and how women should behave or do.
When a woman is a full-time mum, other people might think that they don´t know what working means, which is very offensive for those women who are doing their very best to make sense of their lives…
When mothers work, they feel guilty because they are not with their kids and when they are, they feel guilty because they are not working. Not to mention the deadlines and never-ending meetings…
I don´t know about you, but all of this sounds very much like a nightmare to me, as if though we were being pulled apart in all directions.
“I think every working mom probably feels the same thing: You go through big chunks of time where you´re just thinking, ‘this is impossible – oh, this is impossible. ‘And then you just keep going and keep going, and you sort of do the impossible.” – Tina Fey
Taking care of our mind:
As a life coach, I recommend everybody to take pay attention to our emotions. Just like we go and brush our teeth after our meals, take the car to service, see a doctor for illnesses, we should go to a therapist when our emotions are making us feel overwhelmed (I call it mind-maintenance).
Studies in Harvard showed a technique that makes us feel less stress reactive and with more energy, which is simply standing up in a power pose (like wonder woman or superman) for two minutes that can help us too.
Meditating is a habit successful people have too, it helps clearing the mind, in YouTube we can find hundreds of guided meditations, so which one is the best? I recommend Vipassana meditation (or mindfulness meditation) and Thetahealing meditations.
Surrounding ourselves with people who make us stronger and better:
People who gossip about others, will gossip about us. People who love to empower others can help us grow with them. It is important to chose well the people that are around us because they will have an impact on us (positive or negative).
“I think it´s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state – meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.” – Heidi Klum
Choosing a career:
What I have felt, heard and seen over and over again, is that people come out of college, universities or from whatever their background is and start working in something they feel exited about. Time goes by and as they lose their freedom, they also lose the passion they once had. Not long ago I heard someone mentioning that on Sunday’s evening she was grumpy because she knew she had to go to work on Monday! That is why I recommend women, specially mothers to look into being an online entrepreneur. That is what I found to find more time in my life and that allowed me to start a business that can not only allow me to have that time, but it allowed me to contribute in so many ways as a mother, a wife, as a professional and guess what? I didn´t have to have any products or much experience in digital businesses, click here to see the 4 Day on demand workshop series that started my education and can start yours as well.
Enjoy being a successful mother that can also spend the time she wants with their kids and as always, I send love;